April 29th, 2015
As a working woman in a man’s world, it’s only natural I gravitate to women I see kicking butt. I’ve affectionately dubbed them It Girls — magnetic and charming ladies who are a rare find amongst the abundance of supermodel hot, perfect 10 women who frequent Honolulu's nightlife scene.
Yes, they are beautiful and have an effortless fashion sense, but there is something even more special about It Girls that sets them apart. It's their attitude.
It Girls are friendly. They have nothing to gain and everything to give. It Girls are confident, hard-working and independent, but still approachable.
While there is nothing wrong with remaining guarded after countless, repeated attempts to date, touch, or do something even worse to a breathtakingly beautiful woman, it still pains me to see how many of them go out looking so angry at the world. It makes me never want to see them, let alone step in a working environment where I know they will be.
In nightlife, sex sells. You can’t get away from it. You can treat women with respect, but at the end of the day they are utilizing their own sexuality to sell something. It’s disgusting. It’s life. How I manage to stay sane and not get caught up in this is to celebrate the good. They are few and far between, but they are definitely out there. I plan to blog about one every month so I can share these brilliant, amazing women with everyone.
I was blown by an event I was asked to play at The Fix last weekend. The girl who booked me, Elora Kim Murger (aka Elora Tahiti), was someone I had gotten very used to seeing around; she is a very sweet, always smiling Tahitian who loves to dance.
Most of the time we have spent together has been on the dance floor, which is a very special and rare thing. Her 50 Shades of Lust party was full of equally beautiful and friendly women I had never seen before. There is a whole community of them! It was wonderful and I had to know more.
HONOLULU STAR-ADVERTISER: How old are you?
ELORA TAHITI: 25 years old.
SA: Where did you go to school?
ET: In the beautiful French Riviera, South of France, at Skema Business School Sophia Antipolis. I received my Bachelor’s degree there, which tool me to Hawaii Pacific University as an exchange student. After falling in love with our beautiful little paradise, I came back for a Master’s degree, still at HPU.
SA:When did you move to Hawaii?
ET: My first move was august 2011 for 7 months. I hopped around the world to visit my dad in Tahiti, for a summer in Cannes (France), and for an internship in Morocco, before returning in January 2013.
SA: What inspired you to produce 50 Shades of Lust?
ET: I’ve always been drawn to event planning, but was never really sure how passionate I was about it until I produced my own event.
What inspired me is the network of talented people I have around me. I see my friends left and right, organizing different nights, reaching out to me and accepting my help, but mostly teaching me a lot about the industry!
SA: What were some of the lessons learned hosting this event?
ET: I would say that the toughest part was communication, and coming from a master’s student of communication, it’s tough to admit! By not communicating enough in the beginning, I felt so overwhelmed I thought I couldn’t do it. But it is ok to ask for help! I had a vision, and not everybody could see the party going off in my head until I invited them!
Lessons learned: be very organized, every detail counts, communicate your ideas, write everything down and never think you can’t do it, because if you already see it, it is happening!
SA: What inspired the theme?
ET: My experience in the South of France, hands down! Events in the South of France have the elegance I crave out here. They are out of this world, everything is sexy and over the top!
On a night out in Cannes, you will see tigers in cages as you wait in line to get in. You will see beautiful women, carried through the room on thrones, holding the biggest bottle of champagne you have ever seen. If you’re lucky, the millionaire next to you is having so much fun that he orders 500 bottles of Cristal Roederer for the whole club!
Every night is a surprise, every night is a chill, and you always find yourself out of breath! “Fifty Shades of Grey” definitely had a similar effect around the world, connecting to the outrageous uniqueness of those events.
SA: Can you list any past events that left a lasting impression on you?
ET: Yes, one in particular, the Mental Rager Floating Island, put together by Jamie Spann. He managed to build an ocean dancefloor and surround it with boats, rafts and a double decker barge holding a bar and the DJs! I have seen boat parties, but the concept of this one could start a whole new trend of ocean venues.
SA: Where are some of your favorite places to go out?
ET: I love Chinatown, it’s ... full of different events and each venue has its own charm!
SA: What is your opinion on Honolulu nightlife?
ET: It’s very diverse. It’s almost as if there were different (cliques). There are multiple communities, (and) the key is to find what is appealing to all these different crowds to bring them all together!
Honolulu needs innovation and more excitement to kick it up a notch and give some life to the night!
SA: What does the phrase "It Girl" mean to you?
ET: I am still not sure if I really understand that category, as I believe that anybody has IT, as long as they embrace IT.
SA: You are a positive person who would rather share a spotlight than hog it all to yourself and is also beautiful. That is what makes you special.
ET: I am not sure about the categorizing of an It Girl. I would probably rather use the (term) social butterfly. I am always carrying a positive attitude, and the people around me make me who I am.
When I smile, they smile back, and that’s how the good energy is created. I listen, observe and genuinely care about building strong relationships. Everybody around me is IT, as long as we always strive to be the best of ourselves. We each have a talent, and if we unite, we can create beautiful things!
SA: Do you feel like it is harder to execute an event because you are a woman?
ET: It was easier in (the) way people were more open to consider my ideas, but harder in (the) sense that a few were not listening and had their own ideas.
SA: Who are some of your mentors?
ET: My parents ... have made me who I am. My dad is a genius and my mom is a social butterfly. Both have taught me we are all capable of learning and executing anything we would want, as long as we do it with a smile, passionately and strategically.
SA: Where do you see yourself in the next three years?
ET: From Tahiti to Ohio, to France, to Morocco (and back) to Hawaii. I am really not sure where the next flight will take me!
SA: Five years?
ET: In five years I will be 30 years old. I don’t even want to talk about it!
Christa Wittmier has chronicled Honolulu nightlife since 2004. She is senior marketing director at Young's Market Co. of Hawaii and executive director of music for Pow! Wow! Hawaii, and also helps promote the popular Bacardi Pool Party on Oahu. Contact her via e-mail or follow her on Twitter.